Email Templates for Dealing with Single Opt-In Intros
In my recent essay, The Tyranny of the Single Opt-In Intro, I laid out my case for why single opt-in introductions are so harmful. TL;DR — they rob people of their agency and ability to decide for themselves how to use their time and energy. I’ve received many inquiries about the exact templates I use to deal with single opt-in intros, so I’ve decided to share them.
There are two main message templates I use:
Postponing a Connection. I use this template when I wouldn’t mind talking to someone, just at a more convenient time. It also clearly reinforces that next time, the connector should ask me first before making an intro.
Hi XXX,
It’d be great to get a heads up before being connected to anyone. My bandwidth is limited now because of XXX. I want to make sure I can get back to everyone in a respectful time frame. I can speak with XXX, but I’d really appreciate it if it could wait a couple of weeks.
Refusing a Connection. Sometimes I genuinely don’t wish to connect. That’s when I use this template.
Hi XXX,
Going forward, I’d really appreciate it if you would check with me first before connecting me to anyone. Double opt-in intros are always best. My bandwidth is limited now, so unfortunately I will…
